tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post6715812510673670592..comments2023-10-21T06:00:15.001-06:00Comments on Don't MAKE Me Get My Flying Monkeys : A rant question...dmmgmfmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09872482306885344135noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-41398305182918569732009-03-03T07:02:00.000-07:002009-03-03T07:02:00.000-07:00I agree that you did the correct thing in letting ...I agree that you did the correct thing in letting the medical staff know. If the family has disowned you then they have painted a picture that only defines them as individuals who have a lot to learn about love. I would continue to love them from afar and when if they are ready to communicate with you then so be it. Just know that you have gone that extra step (one full of love) to help a friend. You have learned and taught a lesson here. That is what our journey is about.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10571464333419314695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-90328919402375325672009-02-22T19:52:00.000-07:002009-02-22T19:52:00.000-07:00Thanks for your more than kind comments. The woma...Thanks for your more than kind comments. The woman in question is my mother's only remaining sister. I am related to all of those in question, which is why I butted-in in the first place.<BR/><BR/>As for the care she is receiving at the facility, I think it is easy for people who don't have anyone to advocate for them to get lost in the shuffle, but a few of the staff made it known to me that they thought she should be admitted quickly and I thank them for that.<BR/><BR/>Aunt N is at the hospital, on IV's. They are trying to get her to eat, but it is slow going. <BR/><BR/>She may have lost her will to live, I don't know...she never indicated it to me in the fifty or sixty times I sat with her in her room. I just didn't want her to go down without a fight.<BR/><BR/>Big hugs to all...<BR/><BR/>Lauriedmmgmfmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09872482306885344135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-60293440213792026042009-02-22T15:23:00.000-07:002009-02-22T15:23:00.000-07:00You did absolutely the right thing. . . those who ...You did absolutely the right thing. . . those who are close to the situation(s) sometimes can't see what's happening or won't see it. Either way, you were absolutely right!! We are responsible to do what is in our mind, the right thing - their response to it is not our problem. <BR/>(HUGE bear hug) ...bwdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13045893698002764499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-34210206417871567282009-02-22T08:15:00.000-07:002009-02-22T08:15:00.000-07:00I agree that you did the right thing, but, I am un...I agree that you did the right thing, but, I am unclear as to your relationship with these people as well. <BR/><BR/>If they're family, then blast them! If not, then keep quiet. :)TigerYogijihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03339181047208308131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-9950234268360032402009-02-21T21:35:00.000-07:002009-02-21T21:35:00.000-07:00You did exactly the right thing. Thank god this wo...You did exactly the right thing. Thank god this woman had someone who cared about her enough to light a fire under the staff at that....place. (I hate long-term care facilities. They're almost always for-profit, and they routinely...as matter of policy...cut corners that endanger their residents.<BR/><BR/>brava, Laurie. You were right on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-77197955795865117072009-02-21T15:29:00.000-07:002009-02-21T15:29:00.000-07:00I'm wondering about the professionals in the facil...I'm wondering about the professionals in the facility where she was. They were the ones who saw her regularly and should have been communicating with the family.Squirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09235466916480849429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-61289190902496745882009-02-21T03:36:00.000-07:002009-02-21T03:36:00.000-07:00I've kind of been on the other end of it.My brothe...I've kind of been on the other end of it.<BR/><BR/>My brother is bipolar. When he goes off his medication, which is about twice a year, we get flurries of paranoid and delusional phone calls.<BR/><BR/>When my sister found out, suddenly she became the Resident Expert on Everything, and was very accusatory with me:<BR/><BR/>"Have you tried to have him committed?"<BR/>-yes<BR/>"Well, have you tried <I>this?</I>"<BR/>-yes<BR/>"Well, have you tried <I>that?</I>"<BR/>-yes<BR/><BR/>It was very upsetting to me.<BR/><BR/>You did the right thing by speaking up, but it is very, very, difficult to get help for someone who doesn't want it. If the family had already been through all this with someone less tactful, they might respond by quickly shutting you down. It's just a sad situation for everybody.<BR/><BR/>(Of course, the usual caveat applies: I might be wrong about everything.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-15827155304034070252009-02-20T21:03:00.000-07:002009-02-20T21:03:00.000-07:00Laurie I get this all the timePeople watching thei...Laurie I get this all the time<BR/><BR/>People watching their loved ones go to the Devil and either they or the people who should care end up doing nothing.<BR/><BR/>In a case where you feel damned if you do (tell) and damned if you don't (let her go) always go for what you feel is right - and I know you did the right thing.<BR/><BR/>Good for you.Ur-spohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04237644452200889946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-65524657882669714762009-02-20T18:13:00.000-07:002009-02-20T18:13:00.000-07:00I'm a little confused as to if you are part of the...I'm a little confused as to if you are part of the immediate family. If you are then you can certainly state your concerns. Otherwise it gets a little murky and I think I might have expressed my alarm to the professionals (Dr's etc.)who were following her in the care facility. (I know from experience that there are often not enough doctors for the amount of patients in those care facilities and a patient can get lost in the shuffle and you need to make your concerns known....LOUDLY !) Good for the Dr. to put her in the hospital.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-50452063262203106452009-02-20T18:02:00.000-07:002009-02-20T18:02:00.000-07:00As a nurse, my first question is, 'why did the sta...As a nurse, my first question is, 'why did the staff and doctor take so long to admit her to hospital???'<BR/><BR/>You did the proper thing, Laurie... no question in my mind. Good on you, girl.Ponita in Real Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06886875733169389887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-69933247514461456722009-02-20T15:58:00.000-07:002009-02-20T15:58:00.000-07:00You did EXACTLY the right thing.You did EXACTLY the right thing.Lynne at Hasty Brookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09187035706322695138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24229767.post-3281126798785773472009-02-20T15:38:00.000-07:002009-02-20T15:38:00.000-07:00You did the right thing, no question about itYou did the right thing, no question about itthreecolliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05811004278088768813noreply@blogger.com